Thoughts : Attachment

Does anyone else have a habit of re-watching, re-listening to the same music and the same movies again and again? I do. I have a habit of re-watching and re-listening to the same piano melodies, to the same movies again and again. I don’t let go off things easily that has been done in the past. I even HATE replacing old handbags with new ones and replacing old phones with new ones. I have this certain kind of attachment that I develop with my accessories. I only let my old handbags go when my mother and my sister roll their eyes at me and tell me to get a new one and even when I get the new one, I still keep my old bag safely…I feel a little emotional even over using new handbags over the old ones! Haha ! It often leads to comical relief within the household due to my expression and actions over certain things like this …like my bag…
and when it comes to people…I am over to the top emotional and I feel things more than they could and I imagine having a bond with them within my head, very close to what it actually is…and through this imagination…a creative imagination, I get hurt…I get badly hurt…I get very bruised…but I am learning…I am learning…

 

Attachment theories
Photo taken from the web. The concept of Attachment Psychology among Humans with Anxiety 

 One hour Photo 

Has anyone watched the movie, “One hour photo” ? – it has a beautiful yet a disturbing image of people that are lonely…people that want to belong to a family…A disturbing yet a beautiful film on lonely people. I loved it, it makes me empathize a lot more with people that are isolated….May God bless people like Sy and RIP Robin Williams for wonderfully portraying the role of Sy – the photoguy

The need of wanting to love and wanting to be loved. (Photo taken from the web)

Copying Nature 

Walking through the man made escapades that are trying too hard to look like the vast nature is intriguing. It’s very intriguing. It’s also ironic because men keep trying to destroy the beautiful nature as well although they try to build their castles and architecture similar to the entity of the nature. Man is a hypocrite in every form

Architecture of a mall in the city of Dubai

Quotes : Paranoia

Lately, I have come to a vivid realization of pessimism. I’ve realized that I’ve turned into a cynical woman. A cynical woman with depressing thoughts…and there are moments where I get overwhelmed.

I get overwhelmed with my mind…I am cynical of people and their wishes for me. Sometimes, I don’t think anyone cares for me besides my family. Sometimes, I think it’s all about envy and some kind of weird jealousy and I am always anxious. My anxiety gets the best of me. I am scared most of the time, especially when I receive a compliment. I question the authenticity of their compliment – is it because they mean well or is it because out of pure jealousy that they wish something ill happens to me…I get so paranoid that I lose my mind and I cut those people off. I cut many people off. Infact I don’t keep anyone close. I keep nobody close. I am too scared to form friendships. I am too scared to even formulate a contact with someone that could be a potential love-interest as well. I just need nobody. Solitude is bliss I guess, my social life has become nil. I talk to nobody anymore. I am just stuck in my vicious cycle of paranoia, disturbia and anxiety but I am okay. I don’t let anyone damage me anymore because I keep nobody close. Nobody.

Faith in Allah 

“You maybe struggling for help by people around you that had once promised to be around you for the rest of your life but when the time comes and you’re all alone with nothing, people will walk away from you. Only your lord will help you so don’t neglect him. Don’t neglect the lord and he won’t neglect you. God is indeed the most merciful. I had nobody to look after me, no father, no lover, no friends and I was all by myself, broken and devastated in pain. Nobody wanted to be my friend either when I told them about my troubles or even listen to me but the day I devoted myself complaining and asking god for his mercy, the light and the doors of my troubles Opened for me, slowly but surely. God didn’t leave me….when everyone else left me. I would never want to displease my lord ever again.”   

Photo taken from the web : authentic quote from the Quran 

The reality of Islam extremists 

It’s strange how many divisions exist within a religion itself. For instance, I am a Sunni-Hanafi and our school and thinking related to Islam is different compared to those that are present in other countries such as the wahabbis (extremists) school of Islamic thought that come from Saudi Arabia. Actually it’s not even Saudi, different people have different thinking and mindset related to religion. 

Just like Christianity, Islam also has its own school of thoughts. 

You have orthodox, Catholics, Protestants and what not in Christianity. 

You have people that also believe in the KKK just like we have people that believe in ISIS 

We are also divided like other religions, even though we are trying too hard not to but this is the reality that exists. 

I’m only saying this because ignorance related to Islam needs to end and islamophobia needs to end. 

Don’t compare us to extremists! We don’t like them either!

Picture taken from the web : The different sectors of Islam

Short quote : Cruel by Default

Note : Photo for this blogpost has been taken from the web
I think some souls are just heartless by default and I think some souls should pray to God more than others to ask for a heart that seeks compassion and empathy for people.— because I’ve witnessed some people stating that they just don’t seem to care about others even though they wish to care. It’s peculiar but interestingly – we also have genes that promote that behavior as we inherit them from our parents. Ever heard of survival of the fittest? Darwin’s theory? How the genes of survival are passed on? The selfish genes or the alleles of that behavior are selected over alleles of self-less behavior because self-less behavior requires sacrifice.

 

Crazy thought but it maybe a reality of this world, life is insane.
marina abromovic
Photo of Social Experiment created by the renowned Marina Abromovic. 

Please Note : The below mentioned Article is not written by me.

“The piece:

‘Rhythm 0, 1974’

The idea, loosely explained, was to test the limits binding the performer and the audience to their furthest degree. She did this by assigning herself a horrifically passive role, where she would stand, for six hours, in an open space, behind a table with carefully chosen objects laid upon it, and a sign explaining what she was doing, and that she would take full responsibility for what was to happen to her.

On the table, the objects she used consisted of things that could be used for pleasure, and objects that could be used for pain, as far as death:

A rose. A feather. Grapes. Honey. A condom. A whip. A scalpel. A gun. And a single bullet.

Apparently, as she explains in the interview, beginning the performance, her audience was quite playful. They were hesitant and reserved and did not think to push the boundaries.

Later, they became more aggressive.  She explains it as “6 hours of real horror.” Where people tore at her clothes. Pierced her skin with a rose’s stem. Cut her with a knife and drank her blood. They carried her around, half naked, laid her down on the table and stabbed the knife in between her legs, driving it into and through the table’s surface.

It got to the stage where somebody put the bullet into the gun, and held it at her head with a finger on the trigger. Another member of the audience brushed this person aside, and diffused the situation. Another person tried to have sex with her, until (assumedly “he”) he was deterred by someone else. The tension was thick, real.

After the six hours had lapsed, after she had been caressed, pricked, cut, scalded, almost raped, and almost shot in the head, the gallery’s supervisor came and said that the act was now over. She walked forward toward the audience, naked, with blood dripping from her skin, tears in her eyes. The result?

Everybody ran away. Not one person was willing to confront her active state.

She explained that that night, when she was staring at herself in the mirror of her hotel room, that she saw a long, single strand of white hair.

I don’t believe in God. And I don’t believe that anyone is a “real” or “authentic” prophet – that is to say, I don’t believe that people are hand picked and sent down from “heaven” to lead us.

However, there is something hauntingly beautiful about this woman, eerie. Her eyes are possessed with only presence. I had tears in my eyes – not when I read the story or listened to a video of her explaining what happened during this process – but rather, and simply, when I watched her do a promotional video for a piece that she did for MoMa.

There is just something about her eyes that speak so clearly without words.”

Source : https://humansareweird.com/2013/02/21/marina-abramovic-a-performing-artist/

 

Global Issue: They don’t care about us

Scoops of Strength

I have always appreciated classical music, especially when composed using the instrument cello and violin. There is something about their melody that transports you to a whole new dimension. These tunes can never bore you.

Recently, I came across a cello duo called 2CELLOS and I just fell in love with the way they create their music. They re-create popular (usually pop) music using the classic cello in an incredible way.  One of my favourite music video is “They don’t care about us- Michael Jackson”. Michael Jackson’s music video “They don’t care about us” portrays poverty and socio-economic issues faced by the Brazilians during that period. It was a very controversial music video during that time (which I do not wish to go in deep in this post). However, 2CELLOS brilliantly illustrates the current situation faced around the globe, WAR.

For the past couple of years there have been continuous…

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What Islam really teaches 

“Every priest has a past and every sinner has a future.” 


REMEMBER:-You are nobody to tell who is right and who is wrong. You are nobody to say this is haram and this is halal. You may correct the person but correct in such a way that doesn’t offend them. Correct in such a way that doesn’t make them feel you’re superior to them. Correct in such a way that makes them want to know more about Right or wrong. 

You’re not god. Never judge. 

You don’t know if the sinners heart is purer than yours. You don’t know if they’re more close or more dear to god than you are. 

You don’t know what kind of a character they possess. 

It’s said in a Hadith :- 

A Prostitute who gave water to a thirsty dog entered paradise rather than the woman who prayed 5 times a day and gossiped about the prostitute related to her line of work. She went to hell. 

That’s what my religion teaches me. My religion teaches me kindness and empathy and that’s the biggest priority of Islam. 


I don’t care if you’re a 5 times religious holy Muslim or a holy Christian or a holy Jewish person. 

A holy and a loving person will never mock or tell someone else otherwise if they are “committing sin” or otherwise. 

Rather, they will correct the person with all the love they have in their heart for them, help them in times of their need and pray for them. 

This is religion. That’s what religion teaches us. May Allah bless us all and give us all hidayat. Ameen. Ameen. Ameen.

Authentic Islamic quote of our Prophet. (Taken from the web)